When we determine that our jealousy indeed crosses into the realm of irrational or blameworthy characteristic, we can then look at what’s behind it. Irrational jealousy often stems from insecurity or poor self-image. Thus it is important to face whatever fears that results in the jealousy. It could be a fear of losing your partner, your standing in the family (jealousy by one parent, when a new baby is born, is very common), or fear of failure. If the fear can be identified, then it can be dealt with directly rather than trying to manipulate the feeling of jealousy away or distract from it.